But what’s the difference between talking to a stranger in the comfort of your own home, and going to a bar and talking to a stranger there?
However, there are risks to be had when getting to know someone on an internet dating site.
First off, you don’t know for sure if the person is who they say they are. Anyone can post a picture and profile and you have no way of knowing if what they are saying is true, and scammers are abundant on dating sites.
The following is what to watch out for:
For the mature woman (over 40) who still has children at home and works full time it is far easier to get to know a man this way than having to get all dressed up and sit in a club or bar for a few hours.
If a man wants to talk endlessly by mail and he professes his love for you even though you’ve never met, you’d be right to be suspicious. It is a good idea to get the man to talk to you on the telephone or do Skype as soon as possible. This way you can eliminate possible scammers very quickly.
If a man keeps making excuses as to why you can’t meet after a couple of weeks of messaging back and forth then you need to ask yourself why. Chemistry can only be found when meeting face-to-face.
It’s not just scammers you have to watch out for, online dating sites are a hunting ground for married men. If a man continually makes excuses as to why you can’t meet or go to his house there is a good chance he is married.
The belief is that there is a lot of good, single men out there. But because we can all spend time scrolling profiles it seems like there will always be someone better just around the corner, so we won’t tolerate a few faults that a man has.
What we are forgetting is that we probably have a few faults of our own as well.
By the time we reach middle age we all have baggage. If you say you don’t have any baggage you are either lying or you have lived a very solitary, lonely life.
The grass isn’t greener on the other side. Unless the man you meet has character traits that go against your morals and values it is probably best to overlook a few minor faults.
If you are a middle aged woman and still think once you get your man you are going to change him, you are mistaken.
We are all set in our ways, but you need to learn to appreciate a man’s good qualities and overlook the undesirable ones.Who knows, you might just find your one and only true love by staring at an electronic device.
Who would have thought 30 years ago that this would become the normal way to meet members of the opposite sex?