I have just finished 3 months of therapy for bipolar disorder.
I have realized that I can't defend myself, and the fantastic thing is I never could
I had no idea.
Now I realized what a devastating effect it has had on my life, I find it astonishing that I had all these behavior problems and was completely unaware. If I hadn't gone into therapy I would never have known
How can I learn how to defend myself??
Can someone help?
My heart goes out to you.
We can’t change our behavior if we don’t know anything is wrong. Half the battle is figuring out what we need to work on.
We are all on a journey and for you it seems to be that you need to learn how to stand up for yourself.
If someone is picking on you it means they are jealous of you for some reason. I got this advice from my father when I was 12-years-old. Even now, in middle age, when someone rips me apart I remember they are jealous of me for some reason and walk away from their pettiness.
May I offer you a suggestion of a book to read?
It is called “Boundaries” by Dr. Henry Cloud, and Dr. John Townsend.
It will give you some ideas on how to put up a fence with people that walk all over you. These people won’t like it if you try to change the way you interact with them.
They are used to bullying you but once you find the courage to let them know you will not tolerate their behavior they will back down.
You may also have to limit the time you spend with them until you are strong enough to be firm. Bullies are really cowards in disguise. I’ve had to do this in my own life and I found it amazing how these people respect me more now.
Three months is very little time to be in therapy. I hope you will continue with it.
Also, there are many self-help groups around for people with mood disorders or depression. It can be a comfort to talk to others who are going through similar situations as yourself.
If you can’t find a group in your area there are chat rooms online for people with bipolar disorder.
I hope I have been of some help.
Live, Love and Laugh,